Last week ballroom dancing champion and So You Think You Can Dance judge, Mary Murphy, came forth with her own horrifying experience with domestic violence.
It's an unfortunately all-to-familiar story for those in abusive and violent relationships, particularly the female victims. The part that I want to focus on here though is the fact that her own parents encouraged her to go back to the relationship again and again to "work it out".
In another post I stated that let's stop failing these families and start helping them with outreach, education and prevention without regard to gender, sexual preference, cultural or religious biases.
And what's worse than our own families failing us? Really. My grandparents, who I loved dearly (God rest their souls), told my mom that she "had made her own bed" and had to deal with the abuse.
Her own bed that she made and lay battered in for 12 years before she finally found the courage to get us all out of there.
There's so much shame that comes with abuse - did we bring it on ourselves? Maybe I deserve it?
Again, I loved my grandparents and it was a different time but no one deserves to be abused. It's not okay to look the other way and say work it out.
Friends and family, help those loved ones in need to help themselves get out of hell and on the healing path - including the abuser if at all possible. (Over half of the people convicted of violent crimes are first-time offenders who commit crimes against friends or family.)
Parents, tell your children young and grown it's not okay.
Hope, Faith, Courage, Strength - right on!
Purple peace out.