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Sunday, September 21, 2008

Daddy K and Mama A are overdue and know it; we’re all good

It's mostly my fault, feeding the Baby B hype and due date and the 0-60 mama and daddy transformation. The fact of the matter is: most babies don't come on their due date. For those of you who have experienced this (in our mother's generation it was not uncommon to deliver at 42 or even 43 weeks), you understand frustration and disappointment and the emotional toll it takes.

Family and friends have the best intentions and share their concern, but that can also add to the level of frustration – especially when there's nothing wrong with us or the baby at this point. It's just late.

In fact, of the 95 percent who don't arrive on time, 7 out of 10 are overdue. And the baby isn't considered overdue until two weeks – not one day or week – two weeks. And only then do you consider options for inducing if there are medical issues, because there is evidence that some babies are at risk after this stage due to a gradual decrease in the supply of nutrients from the placenta.

We have a plan B if we get to that point. We've had a plan B since the beginning (wink). We, including our midwife, didn't just fall off the turnip truck (well, maybe I did, but that's not the point).

Here are some great tips for overdue parents from the Mayo Clinic:

Hang in there. You're in the homestretch! Whether your health care provider suggests a wait-and-see approach or schedules an induction, do your best to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

  1. Accept your emotions. It's OK to feel frustrated or disappointed. You probably didn't bargain for more than 40 weeks of pregnancy.

  2. Take advantage of the extra time. Sleep in while you can. Put the finishing touches on the nursery. Stock your freezer with extra meals. Address birth announcements and thank you cards.

  3. Make plans (we are). Your health care provider may want you to stay close to home, but that's no reason to miss a new movie, go out to dinner or take a walk in the park. Don't be afraid to make plans just because you may need to cancel at the last minute.

  4. Put your answering machine or voice mail to work (which we've done!). To keep well-meaning friends and loved ones up-to-date, consider recording a greeting with the latest on the pregnancy front. "We're patiently waiting for the big day!" may be enough to handle the inquiries that are sure to test your patience.

  5. Treat home remedies with a dose of caution. A simple Internet search will yield countless results for "natural" ways to trigger labor, such as eating spicy food or having sex. Some tactics are relaxing, others silly — and a few may do more harm than good. Get your health care provider's OK before trying any home remedies, herbal supplements or alternative treatments (we've gotten our witchdoctor's approval – we're good).

  6. Stay in touch with your health care provider (we are). You'll need frequent checkups until your baby is born. If you think you're in labor, call your health care provider right away.

Soon you'll hold your baby in your arms — and the long wait will no longer matter.

We're all good for now folks. That's why I did away with the Baby B ticker; it was overdue (wink).

No baby yet. Keep out.

1 comment:

  1. KUDOS to you for not inducing. Until you have a life/health threatening situation, let the BABY decide when it's ready to be born!

    Pete was "overdue" by a week, and I let my Ob induce - because I wanted HER and she was headed overseas. They'd also estimated him as over 10 lbs. Their estimates of weight are just that, ESTIMATES - sure they're educated guesses, but still, they are just guesses. Pete weighted in under 8 lbs at birth and was perfectly great. He did have some guck in his lungs, and I was glad to have great hospital care and a very 'granola' nurse who honored my birth plan, which included skin-to-skin contact and immediate breastfeeding access...

    Anyway - this is the most "free" time you will have for the forseeable future. While you eagerly anticipate B's arrival, try to memorize the freedom because it morphs significantly, and soon.

    AND... though you will have many well-wishers who want to come and visit immediately... consider giving yourself a couple of weeks of keeping EVERYONE at arm's length before you start hosting. is great, as is Dr. Sears' website.

    Cousin Dori