Showing posts with label ipad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ipad. Show all posts

Sunday, November 15, 2020

The Bank of Mom and Dad

We have way too many devices. Big devices. Small devices. Medium-sized devices. Laptops, iPads, iPhones and old iPhones that are now iPods for our daughters. Most are still in pretty good shape, even if they're a few years old, and only one is a PC. Thank goodness for that (a vendor gift from a conference a few years ago). We prefer the Apples.

Of course we're grateful that we can have all these devices, even with the double-edged sword of managing device time with our daughters. However, as operating systems, applications and games evolve, older devices begin to show their age. They're just not supported anymore, and our girls can't play the games they love anymore.  It's a racket, a scam, and it drives us a little bonkers. Damn those Apples.

I'm the gadget guy in our house, and yes, I upgrade my phone every other year, and upgrade my work computer every other year as well. My wife Amy doesn't care about the new gadgets like I do and still uses my old MacBook Pro that's at least five years old (it has had one major repair to date), and uses an iPhone 7. 

But Beatrice, our oldest, has been asking for a new iPad for months now. We told her we weren't buying her a new one and she'd have to keep using the older one she has (one of our older ones). She kept asking, and we kept saying no. 

And then we started talking to her about buying one with her own money. She did save over $100 of the "spend" part of her weekly allowance for a Nintendo Switch that we ended up buying from a friend. So, she began to consider saving her money again and buying a new iPad. 

But that would take her quite a while to save for even the cheapest newish iPad available today. Instead, we offered her a line of credit from the Mom and Dad bank. She was intrigued. We told her that, with no money down, if she paid us at least $5 per week from her allowance for 72 weeks ($20 per month for 18 months), then we would buy her the iPad. All of this contingent on her doing her weekly chores she does for her weekly allowance, which she always does. 

She said she wanted to think about it. We said that's great. Buying something on credit you may or may not want to afford, or shouldn't afford, or can't afford, is a new lesson for our daughters to learn. Beatrice thought about it, asked questions, thought about it some more, asked more questions, and then finally decided she wanted to do it.

I said she'd need to sign an agreement to make it official. Mom didn't think it was necessary, but let me do it anyway. I just wanted her to understand that this is something she'll have to do later in life and that when you agree to credit, you'll have to pay up or negative consequences will come. I didn't go into any detail on that yet, because she is only 12. 

It's enough of a lesson for Beatrice to understand that you can buy things on credit (hopefully within reason) even if you don't have the money saved to do so. Every week Bea and her sister Bryce work for their allowance and then put money into three buckets: spend, save and give. This means money to spend, money to save and money to give to others, charities, etc. 

Bea loves her new iPad. We did cover the extended warranty and buy her a cover, but she's already paid two installments on her shiny gold device.

When I had her sign her credit agreement, she said, "Really?" And I said, "Yes." She signed it. 

She's in good hands, though. The Bank of Mom and Dad is a compassionate and forgiving creditor. 


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Sunday, May 31, 2015

The Unapologetic Parents Who Integrate It All

There we were, sitting at dinner, talking away, while the girls watched shows on their iPods. One of us asked Beatrice a question, but she didn't respond. We asked again, and then she quietly and reluctantly answered with one clear disclaimer: "I'm watching my show."

Dinner with friends and family at restaurants has included childhood distractions for decades. I remember getting crayons and coloring pages when we'd go to Sambo's or Bob's Big Boy, whether supplied by the restaurant or by my parents or grandparents. Usually both.

So, with iPods active, I made the definitive statement: "Yes, we unapologetically bring our devices everywhere we go."

Then I added: "Amy and I grew up with the TV on all the time, and our brains didn't melt."

Which is not entirely true, for us or for our children. The Mama and I are big readers, always have been, and this is one of many activities we encourage with Beatrice and Bryce. In fact, every week they go to the library and bring back a big bagful of new books to read, which we do every night before bed.

There are those child development experts who agree all things in moderation and integrated into everyday family life that includes talking with your children, doing arts and crafts projects together, reading together, writing together, drawing together, engaging in make believe together, or build forts (and even buy one once in a while), or watching a show or playing a game together. In fact, Bryce and I designed a unicorn video game together recently and then imagined we were actually playing it.

And think of it from the kids point of view while out at dinner. Having to listen to adults blather about this and that as they eat painfully slow with no consideration of the fact that the kids are missing out on valuable play time and reading time with the Mama and the Daddy.

As I write this, the girls are watching Little Einsteins on Disney Junior learning about music and art. And then we'll watch some more, and then they'll play on the devices, and then we'll do some art projects together, and then we'll read some new books, and then...

We are the unapologetic parents who integrate it all into some semblance of family time, even when they want to draw daddy's foot when he's working.

Amen.







Sunday, July 31, 2011

Gotta get out and go, go, go through sun, rain, sleet or snow

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The B-hive are Toy Story junkies. All of us. One and all.

(And I write that with nothing but fatherly love and admiration -- Bea is team Woody, by the way).

Although they’re still way too young to get all the adult subtleties, the Mama and me know how sweet and brilliantly written the stories are and how the themes of teamwork and support as well as second, even third chances in life are important and empowering for us all.

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And in another medium--the alien technology known as the iPad--there's an amazing interactive storybook we’ve been watching with the elder B, Bea. It’s called The Fantastic Flying Books of Mr. Morris Lessmore and it’s all about the importance and power of reading books and stories.

There's also the current favorites of Yo Gabba Gabba for Bea and Baby Einstein for Bryce.

TV, DVR, movies, shows, on-demand cable, DVD's, video, computers and laptops, downloadable content for the iPad and iPod, the internet itself...

Hey, Nielsen says more Americans are watching TV than ever before--up 1.2 percent in the last quarter--and they’re spending more time watching TV, too--that’s up 1.9 percent, to a staggering 153-plus hours per month.

And that's just TV.

We do wonder if we're allowing too much of all of the above. Childhood obesity and general lethargy are chronic problems in the US for sure. But the Mama and I grew up with TV--way too much TV and we had only a fraction of the choices the B-hive has today--and yet we were still extemely active.

Because we actually went outside. And did stuff. Active stuff. Like we do now. Brain melting schmelting, too; we've avid readers as well.

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Gotta get out and go, go, go! The Mama is amazing at keeping the kids and me active every single day. Just yesterday we walked to one of the girls favorite parks about a mile away and played, played, played!

Yep, gotta get out and go, go, go through sun, rain, sleet or snow. (Okay, no snow here, but you get my point.)

Go, go, go!

But I'll tell you, from a couple who were never going to have kids, having the iPod and iPad on an airplane is a-ma-zing. Don't ask us to go without on family vacation. Ever.

Then there's this. We said this would never happen either. No judging, please. We're ashamed enough as it is, but I forgot how friggin' good a Big Mac, fries and a coke tastes.

Then get out and go, go, go!

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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Brought to you by Aaa-pull and the letter U.

Beatrice is speaking more beyond a-da-dat babble! She's really trying to pronounce more sounds form words.

And they are tasty. Like apple. Mmmm...

Or more accurately: aaa-pull.

That's what she started saying yesterday. While holding an apple, or a stuffed rabbit, or her fake phone, or her LeapPad story teller thingie, or the letter U from her new magnetic letter/number set.

Oh, how she loves the letter U as well. She points it out everywhere and asks "Dat?".

"That's a U."

Sometimes pursed lips of understanding in return. Sometimes a nod. Sometimes a smile. Sometimes a frown (she's practicing that one a lot lately - *sigh*).

Ah, but brilliance doesn't fall far from the daddy and mama tree. Those genetic experiments and performance enhancing drugs were good for something.

Just kidding. Really.

However, there would even be more brilliance if daddy got himself an iPad. That's what Bea really meant by Aaa-pull; she's "pulling" for me you know.

Gimme an A!

Gimme two more A's!

Gimme a P!

Gimme a U!

Gimme double hockey sticks -- LL!

What's that spell?

Magic!